Thursday, March 22, 2007

Cute couples

"I like your sleeves. They're real big."

I already told about how I'm the "cool" mom (to 9-12 year olds!!) but now Sei and I have been asked to speak to the youth (12-18 year olds) at our church about relationships. Apparently the youth all thought Sei and I were "funny" and a "cute couple" when we spoke in church. I'm not sure what we're suppose to talk about exactly... but I guess I should think about it. After all, it is tonite.

Here are some of my ideas, let me know what you think:
  • The people you date really are the people you marry. (Scary...)

  • If a guy does _____(fill in blank)_______ now, he will still do it when you're married.

  • Guys only pretend to listen. It's a trick they use while dating. "I do" seems to be the magic words that click the "off switch" in their ears.

  • Even if you think you don't like corny love letters, you really do. (I learned that when I married Sei.)
  • "I find myself trying to change you. If you were meant to be my lover I wouldn't have too..." is a good quote to follow. (No Doubt Ex-Girlfriend)

  • If you literally feel nauseous when you think of actually marrying this person- even if you've already sent out the invitations- DON'T!!!!
What do ya think??? Any other ideas??? ;)

Oh- speaking of "cute couples." I was watching Rocky last nite and my mom pointed out the funniest line. I rewound it like 29 times just to watch this little 1/2 second part. It's at the end when Rocky is yelling "Adrian!!" and she's fighting thru the crowd yelling "Rocky!!" Well, while she's running to the ring she loses her red beret. When she gets into the ring with Rocky the 1st thing he says is, "Where's your hat?" For some reason that was like the funniest thing I've ever seen. The actual question + his dopey accent. I was rolling! I haven't rewound something so many times since the Spongebob episode with the Seahorse named "Mystery." When SB feeds him the krabby patty... Mystery's face... Ok, I'll shut up now.


Robin said...

All great! I think it's fun talking to youth about relationships. Remind them that they absolutely do deserve to get exactly what they want in a spouse and yes, it is out there! Nobody is perfect, but somebody will love them and treat them well if they choose to only date those who will do that. If you allow yourself to be treated poorly and think you don't deserve better, than you will end up unhappy.

No Cool Story said...

Awww, the cute couple :)
All those points sound great!
The people you date really are the people you marry. You know, I wish I had been a member when I was young, the Church would have save me a BIG headaches.
Way to go Tori, have a great talk.

Rocky? I have seen it once, a million years ago, I'm no help there.

Tori :) said...

I have been a member my entire life and I still gave myself a migraine (& my parents) by not following all the advice of everyone around me!

Toni said...

Sounds good, I wouldn't want to do it, but then think about it... Would you want ME to talk to YOUR kids??

Amanda said...

You know the line about the way they treat their mom is the way they will treat their wife?? So true!!!
Good luck with your talk. That would be fun!

Suzanne said...

How fun that you guys get to speak! I totally agree that you and Sei are the "cute couple."

Hmm...these are things I wished someone had told me when I was younger.

1. It's o.k. to feel good about yourself, even if you're not always dating.

2. Kissing is special. You shouldn't just kiss someone because you know they want to kiss you. You should genuinely care for them.

3. Even if the girl is not turned on while bear hug dancing, the same may not be true for the guy and vice versa. (Haha good luck if you want to work that one in!)

4. Always listen to the Spirit. If you're in tune with the Spirit, you can get out of bad situations quickly.

5. Talk to older siblings, cousins or good friends that have made good choices in their lives. Find out the choices that they made and listen to their advice. Kids need good older role models because they copy what they see other people do.

That's all I can think of. Good luck! :D

Stepherz said...

I love SB too! Bella is addicted to it, she calls him, "Spun Ba." It's cute how excited she gets when he comes on tv.

Anyhow, good luck with your talk with the youngsters tonight. It sounds like you have some really fun topics. I'd be so nervous!

Liam's Mom - Gina said...

Tori, that is good advice you've listed out here. That last one gave me goose bumps... yikes.

I only dated guys I could see myself marrying... I find it odd that singles waste their time on people that they wouldn't marry. I think macho guys tend to NOT take it seriously... to see how much action they can get before they settle down.