Thursday, April 12, 2007

Closure


Last nite Texas executed the 12th person for 2007. His name is not important because he is scum. He had been described as "the poster child for the death penalty." He murdered 2 friends from high school. I guess I shouldn't say "friends" because it always bothered me when people would claim to be my little sister's "best friend" or whatever and they SO were not. It's like it's cool to make it sound like you were closer to someone who has died than you actually were. Cari was not my friend but we were in the same grade. I did know her. She was very smart and very sweet. We just didn't really run with the same crowd, although one of her best friends was a good friend of mine from church. She was very smart and in honors classes and I wasn't. :) She smiled a lot and the times I did talk to her she was always very friendly. She came into Pizza Hut where I was a waitress on June 5, 1993. 2 days before she was murdered. Her contact lense was bothering her, so I let her use some of my solution and gave her a sauce container to put her lens into. I talked with the 2 friends she was with. It was very unsettling to hear of her death.

Jesus was my friend. We did hang with the same crowd. He was a talented artist and very easy-going. He was funny and had the cutest smile. After his death we actually became related thru marriage (my ex-husband's cousin was married to his cousin or something like that.) I knew his family. His sister, Alex, was pregnant at the time of his murder. She lost her husband 4 years later. I should have tried harder at keep in touch since I moved 5 years ago. I can't even recall how I met Jesus. He was friends with everyone and had a way of making everyone feel comfortable. I heard of his murder at like 5am when the phone rang.
I actually knew several people who died between my sophmore year and a year after my graduation. Some were my friends. But out of those deaths Cari and Jesus' deaths impacted me the most. I guess just the horrible way they died. I don't know. I don't really know what else to say. I don't understand why it took so long to put this man to death. I'm glad there can be some closure for Cari and Jesus' families. They deserve it.


Keep smilin' Cari and Jesus.

13 comments:

tara said...

It is, I guess shocking is the word, to hear of pepoples passings as you get older. It's never something I thought about dealing with, as a kid, but a natural part of life that occurs more frequently as you get older. I am happy for their families. Now whens Scott Peterson's turn?! (Laci taught school at my old JR high and played soft ball w/ my best friend, who I met years later.-- that story is just tragic.)

Thoroughly Mormon Millie said...

As horrible as these things are - that is so awful and he deserved a much harsher death, as Isaacks said - I find comfort in knowing these people will one day "get theirs," whatever that is. Justice will be done.

I'm sorry for your loss. Even if you didn't know Cari very well.

Toni said...

Wow! I am so sorry! The bastard deserved to die. They should have electrocuted his butt! They get the easy way out now!

No Cool Story said...

I'm so sorry :( That's really sad and horrible.
I'm glad they caught the sick animal and that now he's no longer breathing the same air we are.
Viciuos dogs are put down all the time, he was no different.

No Cool Story said...

I have very strong opinions about the death penalty.

swampbaby said...

I still remember how I felt when you told me what had happened. I still remember specific things people said regarding it and in reaction to it and where I was when they said it. I didn't even know them, but you did, and that affected me and I think it really affected the community, as well. So sad.

txmommy said...

that's really sad. When we lose someone we were friends with, or even just knew it's always shocking for some reason. Hopefully their families can get some peace.

PJ said...

How very emotional. I sat on a jury 13 years ago that sentenced a scum to death. I was very young, it was draining.
Sorry for your loses.

jenny said...

I heard about this execution yesterday on the radio, and I was thinking, was it that long ago? I was going to UNT when that happened, already married and living in Lewisville. I'm glad you blogged about ths!

Kayelyn said...

My close friend was taken too soon. His killer still gets 3 squares, tv, and a roof over his head at the point of the mountain. His parents still suffer.

Scary what some people can do. Just plain maddening.

s--max said...

You did a good job of describing Cari & Jesus to people who didn't know them. Nobody deserves to die the way they did, but certainly not these two kind souls. I'll never forget getting that call. I'll never forget how emotional the funerals were. I still can't hear "November Rain" w/o thinking of Cari. I got goosebumps when I saw the headline on the newspaper Wednesday & I cried when I actually read the words to my mom. & Now I'll never forget the very day & time that monster died.

I'm Toni. said...

I have a childhood friend, Lisa, who disappeared before her 15th birthday. She and I had played together at about 11-12 years old.

She actually left town with a known drug dealer and last called her mom 2 years later (don't evem get me started on how I feel about a mother who never reported her dd as a runaway at 14).

Lisa has been featured on America's Most Wanted twice.
http://www.amw.com/missing_persons/brief.cfm?id=30011

It deeply bothers me to consider what likely happened to her. Human trafficking is my quess.

Btw, I read the link about your sister. I'm so sorry for your loss. I loved the stories you shared. My mom tells me stories of the sister she lost too, whom I'm named after. My Aunt Toni died just days after the birth of her first child (mom was only 13 and Aunt Toni was 26). Just as you described with your dd "knowing" her aunt, I too feel like I've always known my Aunt Toni, though I wasn't born until 6 years after she died.

Oh, and I smiled as I read that Nicole told you of her first kiss. My younger sister told me AND my dh (who was my boyfriend at the time) of her first kiss. She was completely grossed out because "he slipped me the tongue." LOL!
Blessings,
~Toni2~

Liam's Mom - Gina said...

This is so sad, Tori. I am sorry for your loss...