Sunday, May 27, 2007

The week of dread...


Thursday is the last day of school for us. Most people are excited. I am not. This is the week of dread for me because on Friday morning my 3 oldest kiddos go to Texas for 6 weeks. Yes, you read that right- six weeks. This is their visitation period with their biological father. I can't call him their "dad" because I feel like that's an insult to Sei. Sei is their dad. I'm not gonna get into it here, but there was a time(s) when he was totally fine with giving up the responsibilities of a father- and Sei gladly stepped up to the plate and has never backed down. Have I mentioned how much I love my husband??? I am so lucky. Soooooo blessed.

Anyway, my kids will leave on Friday and in the six weeks that follow I will go to Texas and have them for 4 days. You know how bad that sucks for someone who is a stay at home mom?? Kids is all I do all day, every day and with more than 1/2 of them gone...It sucks. Big time. (Not that it wouldn't suck for a mom who works outside the home, so please don't bombard me with comments about that.) Taj has a hard time because he doesn't understand where his brothers and sister have gone. Livie will probably be totally confused too. :( I'm actually relieved the time for them to go is finally here. I dread it for so long that I am just ready to get it freakin' over with already! Ugh. We are sending them to Texas with a cell phone this year because last year when we kept getting messages on our answering machine from Isabel and Alec- crying- we'd return their calls. The ex and his wife were mad the kids were calling without asking so they were told that it wasn't their phone to use & they could only talk to us if we called them. That bugs because when Kelsea and Karlea are here if they want to call their mom I let them. No problem. It also bugs because we would call them & the kids were never given our messages. I'm getting pissed now, so that's all I have to say about that.

The plans for the rest of the week are: FUN. FUN. and MORE FUN. We had the carnival on Thursday and Saturday we went out to our good friend's home for a bbq. The kids played basketball, soccer, on the slip n slide. It was tons of fun. Tomorrow we have a luau and a picnic to go to. Thursday there's another big church picnic. I'm so glad they don't have school tomorrow so we have this extra time to hang. I love my kids and I love being a mom. I love the summer- after the 1st six weeks. :) I just hope my kids know how much I miss them when they're gone. I will be counting down the days to July 12- when they come home and Kelsea and Karlea come to visit!! :)
***EWBL: Regarding your comment on Jack Johnson- My husband introduced me to Jack Johnson because JJ produced the surf video "September Sessions"- starring his best friend & pro-surfer Kelly Slater. Sei had to special order his cd when he was living in Hawaii and I'd been listening to it for a year before "Flake" hit the airwaves. SO THERE!!!!! :P (All the 30-ish Mormon women that dig him are just trying to be cool like me - the wife of the original fan.)

16 comments:

wendy said...

What a bummer! 6 weeks seems like too long.

Your husband sounds like a terrific guy!

swampbaby said...

I'm sorry, Sister. My heart always hurts for you (and them) during this time.

tara said...

I remember reading a similar post last summer and it reminded me to be grateful for my kids and to be a more patient mother. I just joined the gmg's so I'll remember your kids being gone and send some love your way!

Mel said...

I'm sorry, that really does suck! As much as I would like an occasional break as a mom I will remember this post and try to enjoy time with my kids!

elasticwaistbandlady said...

It's all good, tori...........until you start playing Dave Matthews Band or matchbox 20. then, I'll know the truth of the extent of your Mormon Mommy music demographic brainwashing.

elasticwaistbandlady said...

I forgot to ask, where in Texas? If it's H-Town, I can play super spy and keep an eye on things. Because large women in elasticwaistbandpants just naturally blend into their surroundings. Well, I guess if 'surroundings' means the Wal-Mart Big Momma section.

Tori :) said...

EWBL- I'm not a fan of either of those bands. Unfortunately most of the songs I want to play on my blog have videos that I can't justify playing... I'm bad like that. ;)
The kids will be in the Ft. Worth area. Otherwise I would employ you as my Super Spy.

Dana said...

Hey Tori! Toni and I are pretty close to Ft Worth (I'm less than an hour away) if you need us.

Christy said...

Hi Tori! That blows man. Why can't the kids call?? Not their phone to use?? Ugh. I do appreciate that you let K&K call me when they want. I know they have fun down there with you all. Let the kids know that is THEIR phone to use as they wish!!

Toni said...

So glad my bio is totally out of the picture! I don't share well with others!

Lauren said...

I am so mad at them right now! It's a good thing you are sending them with a cell phone, I hope things work better this time around.

Jack JOhnson is my hero!

Robin said...

I can't imagine my kids being gone for six weeks! Hang in there and try to use the opprotunity to do some things you can't usually do. I don't know what that would be. Good luck thinking of something.

No Cool Story said...

:( Oh Tori.
I just can't imagine. My kid's DNA donor is totally out of the picture, so I'll never have to deal with that, it'd break my heart.
I'll be praying for you and your kids. They have it really good having a mom like you and a super dad like Sei :)

Amanda said...

Sorry tori!! That has got to be sooooo hard. I was 15 when my parents divorced. It was hard, but I think younger kids would have a much harder time! I'll be praying for you too.

elasticwaistbandlady said...

I'm totally hooked on a song right now called 'Perfect Exceeder' by Mason. Go ahead and look it up, the song rocks. Sadly, the video is way too risque for the likes of my always refined and somewhat dowdy and old-fashioned blog. Shhhaaaawwww, right. You know I set my blog standards low, and this video still couldn't make the cut. You know how bad I am? I wanted to post the video for "Bad Touch" by The Bloodhound Gang for Valentines Day because it cracks me up. I thought better of it though because some readers are much more pious than I, and I don't intend to offend.....most of the time, anyway.

txmommy said...

that stinks BIG TIME. I remember the first time I put my babies on a plane to fly to CA to spend a week with their bio-dad. I worried the whole time and missed them SO much.

My littles also get really confused why they have only one dad but I guess it will work out in the end. Family is about who you love, and who's there for you. and the kids know that.