Friday, October 12, 2007

The "Witch" is in

I'm experiencing a case of the blogger-blahs. I can't think of anything to write about. I don't feel like reading blogs. I just feel....blah. I don't know why. I guess it's not just "Blogger" blahs, I just feel "blah" in general.
Sei finished our yard. We had everything done except for the yard on the right side of the drive way. We had to wait until after the cement truck came thru there for the basketball court. Then we had to decide what to do over there. It's beautiful. He did an awesome job. I was telling him how great it looks and he said, "Yeah, it looks really good." Then, being the loving wife I am, I said, "Now I'll drive the car thru it and trash it so you can see how I feel about the house right now." I'm terrible. But I am so tired of the work I do being ignored and never, ever, neverending. I don't mind doing "Mom" stuff or whatever. Laundry doesn't bother me. Cleaning doesn't bother me. I mean, I don't love it, but I love how the room looks once I'm done. What I mind is when I have to totally clean the kitchen 3 or 4 times in one day or I finish cleaning a room and not 10 minutes later it's trashed again. Or I vacuum a room and then a kid comes in the house with leaves and grass all over their pants and it gets all over the carpet. Or I clean the bathroom and then Taj washes his dirty hands leaving dirt on the door, the counter, the faucet and all over the sink. I mean COME ON PEOPLE! Freakin' clean up after yourself just a little! The other day I took apart our sectional to vacuum and OMGosh! There was like a freakin' food storage underneath it. I mean, we literally could have survived a week off the Goldfish crackers and cereal under there. Then there was the 100 popsicle sticks and crayons. It'd only been like 2 weeks since I had taken it apart. Freak.
And no, I don't feel like my house has to be perfect. I am WAY on the other end of that spectrum. I mean, I like it clean, but I'm not a superfreak about it. I don't have my kids scrub the toilet everyday or anything. And even if I did make them scrub it everyday it wouldn't stop them from peeing all over it. And yes, I have a wonderful husband who pitches in and helps out more than a lot of men, so I won't rag on him because I'm lucky. (Although I actually have him on video stepping over something I had sat outside the bathroom door because he was in it, so he could put it in the bathroom when he came out. He stepped over it and kept walking. WHaaa??!??) All I want is people to put their dirty clothes in the hamper or if the clothes aren't dirty HANG THEM UP. If you get crap on the counter WIPE IT OFF. If you drop the jar of marichino cherries TELL ME or atleast NOTICE it's all over the place including the ceiling fan. If you leave a ring in the tub, see that sponge right there? Yeah, take it and CLEAN IT OFF! If you take off your shoes when you come in the house PUT THEM IN THE SHOE BASKET. If you have more than 1 pair in the shoe basket TAKE THEM TO YOUR CLOSET. I don't think I'm asking for a lot. Just simple things. Clean up after yourself a little. And they could probably say "But Mom, you left your flipflops by the computer." Yeah, and who's gonna pick them up and move them to the closet when she's done typing this grumpy blog? You?? Yeah, that's the difference. I am the one who actually picks up after myself and EVERYONE ELSE IN THIS HOUSE. I have the kids do chores and they do them great- but it's like if it's not an assigned task it's not gettin' done. Why is that? Or I purposely leave something right in the middle of the floor FOR DAYS to see if anyone will pick it up. They'll step over it, walk around it, TRIP OVER IT, but no one ever picks it up. NO ONE. I'm ready to go on strike.
And this weekend we are going to Idaho to visit Sei's sister. It's supposed to be a "break", so I hear. Yeah... Liv won't sleep because it's not her crib and my SIL's kids go to bed whenever the heck they want to. I'll come home more tired than I am now. I guarantee it. Ok, I'm done griping. I've gotta go pack for 7 people for our "fun-filled" weekend. And then do the laundry when we get home. Ugh.

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33 comments:

swampbaby said...

I feel your pain.

Tashasc30 said...

i know whatcha mean in dont know what to write in the blog cause i didnt niether but luckly the girls and i done something fun yesterday so i put that in there
have a great day

Katie said...

Hey, you should leave your kids with Sei and your SIL, and then come take a vacation in Our Own Private Idaho. I'm 98% sure you'll be within ten minutes of our house at some point on your trip.

PJ said...

I could have written most of that post *sigh*

I hope your weekend is surprisingly Great!

Suzanne said...

Ugh, Tori I'm so sorry you're having such a frustrating time! It does seem like no one's listening or paying attention often, doesn't it?

If it makes you feel better, I think you're a great mom and I love the feeling of your home! ***hugs***

annie said...

Yikes, sounds familiar!
Hope things look brighter tomorrow!

Thoroughly Mormon Millie said...

Oh, AMEN on this one. I'm to the point where I'm about to toss everything but 3 pairs of pants per person, 5 shirts, 6 pairs of sox & undies... etc. I figure the less they have, the smaller mess they can make. If I'm not picking it up myself, I'm yelling at someone to do it... it's exhausting.

Suzanne said...

P.S. When my kids act like this (which is more often than I'd like to admit) I tell them the "M" stands for "Mom" and not "Maid". It seems like that a lot, doesn't it??? ***sigh***

Yvonne said...

Don't you just LOVE packing for everyone???

It will get better--somtimes it doesn't feel like it, though. I know quite often I ask Kyle if he left something out for the maid to pick up. I then let him know she isn't working today!!! The lady that raised my sisters and I used to pick up things we left out, put them in a basket, and we'd have to buy them back. (It worked, we picked up our stuff!!!!)

Hope the day gets better!!!

Amanda said...

Sorry you are suffering from the blahs! :(

Being the mom is tough. I feel I could have written that post too! It is hard doing it all and feeling totally underappreciated and like what you do doesn't make a difference. But it does make a difference! You are an awesome mom and your kids love you! That is totally evident by the smiles on their faces!

I feel the same way about 'vacations'! I was so wiped out by the end of our vacation in Utah this summer that I turned into the wicked witch by the time we left. I was ready for my own vacation from vacation! By myself!!

Can you take a few minutes (or longer) to do something for yourself? Take a bath or get a pedicure or just go shopping by yourself? Sometimes just getting out of the house and doing grocery shopping alone can help me to feel better. I also love reading. One of my favorite author's is Emily Watts. She has several books at Deseret Book about mom's. I have read some of them several times and each time it is like a huge pick me up and I feel so much better about being the mom.

{{{{HUGS!!}}}} I hope that today is a better day and that your vacation is like PJ said, surprisingly great! :)

No Cool Story said...

((((HUGS)))) That's lots of cleaning fairy hugs to you.

I also vote for PJs comment. I hope the blahs leave you alone and that somehow you get some relief from all the unnecessary house work. I call it unnecessary because really, there’s absolutely no need for one person to do all the jobs that everybody should be doing on their own.
Like putting their wet towels where you have told the 100 times.

Ashley said...

I completely hear ya. Sometimes I think why bother, it will look like this later even if I clean it now.I always complain to my Mom. She always tells me the same thing, one day they will be grown, don't wish it away, it goes by too fast already. Hope visiting Idaho isn't too bad....imagine living here! J/k.....partly.

Dana said...

I have been in the same kind of blogging slump this week myself. I see my reader count go up and up and up and that makes my slump even worse.

As for the house stuff, I am going to print this and post it on my fridge as a reminder that my kids are not the only ones in the world that do that kind of stuff.

elasticwaistbandlady said...

You're doing the work nobody else wants to do for a low wage......and you're legal in this country! Whoa!

I'm feeling the blog depression too. So deep that I still have my million and one blog ideas but I feel too blah to even write them out. I broke the top 20 on humor blogs after 6 weeks of trying and I feel too blah to even post something funny. :( Time for me to join crappyandsadblogs.com, I guess.

jenica said...

eXACTly. wishing you happier days, cleaner closets, and children who revel in cleanliness. ;-D

S said...

I have Always said a true vacation is at home in a clean house with NO ONE else for one weeks. AAAAAAAAAHHHHHHH own bed, own food, own non showered self:) the rest is work work work work. Hang in there!

Kayelyn said...

Holy Peanut Butter and Jam sandwiches! My husband and I have been saying this for YEARS!! I read this out loud to the half of my kids that were home. They agreed it sounds just like me.

So what I am saying is that I feel your pain AND I have no answers.

Want to meet at Office Max just up the road from your home to make "On Strike" signs?

Jean Knee said...

you hit " the problem with life 101" on the head sister!. It's not doing the stuff, it;s having it wrecked five minutes after you straightened it.

and you cook something and before they even taste it they declare it yucky.
I'm reading a book now that said the character's mom's job on vacation was to provide food, drink, and fun to visitors. the dad's job was to take a nap and read. the kids just traipsed around.

I think it is just the assumption that if something needs doing you'll do it.

sorry, I wrote a book.

tara said...

I feel ya Tori! I purposely did nothing today, and I feel like crap, but I'm SICK of the same.darn.things. can I say...
"we're all in this together!"
would this be the wrong time to say... re-read this next summer when your kids are comin' to Texas?

I HOPE that ONE day when I give ASSINGMENTS that they will actually be fulfilled (oldest being 5 doesn't currently help this cause!)

Tori-you're my hero... for more than one reason! (o:

s--max said...

I'm sorry you're feeling blah. I have just one question ~ how did marichino cherries get on the ceiling fan??!!!

Jenny said...

Wow, you could be describing my house and everyone in it! It is discouraging when you work at something only to have it messed up within an hour. That's the most depressing part of the mom gig - constant working and then re-doing.

Hope you have some fun this weekend! I know it's generally more effort than anything else to travel with kids.

Nancy Face said...

I've been in desperate need of food storage space...thanks for the great tip! ;)

Help I need a user name! said...

Oh, sweetie...I'm sorry. I have SO been there. In fact, I'm there a lot of days. I rag on myself all the time for not making the kids help when they've left a mess and I'm cleaning it, or I just do it and resent it.

When I feel this way, I try the following: a)I remember a quote from Garrison Keillor..."Nothing you do for a child is ever wasted." b) eat ice cream. With chocolate sauce. And sometimes, sprinkles. No, it doesn't really help much, but the extra work does justify the ice cream, at least in my world.

I'll be praying for a relaxing, refreshing time for you in Idaho (somehow. God does work wonders, you know.) Hang in there.

Liam's Mom - Gina said...

I say take that Katie gal up on her offer. She is an awesome hostess and will provide a comfy bed for you to sleep as long as you want. We love us The Private Idaho.

Sorry you had to clean up the goldfish Liam left for you in the couch.

OneFullHouse said...

Oh no! Sounds like you've had a tough week.

Show the kiddos the picture you uploaded for this post and threaten to join these fed-up moms. Maybe that'll be subtle enough of a hint.

so grateful to be Mormon! said...

hi tori:)
this might help you with your blas. read this hilarious post. it cracked me up.

take care, kathleen :)

http://cranberrycorner.blogspot.com/2007/10/make-out-meme.html

Lauren said...

I'm sorry you are having a hard time. You need some Tori Time.

Don't worry about the Blogger Blahs...take some time off and eventually you will miss it ;)

wendy said...

Tori - I feel your pain. I think I have said those exact things...lately the shoes sitting right by the shoe basket has been driving me batty. How hard is it to lift your foot 8 inches off the ground and kick your flip flop into the basket as you walk in the house. really...

utmommy said...

So sorry. I just went throught the blogging blahs. I'm not fully out of it yet, and I don't know why.

I totally hear you about the cleaning. Sometimes I feel like doing NOTHING just to see what would happen. But I know what would happen, things would just get messier and messier then I'd be even more grumpy.

Hope things look brighter soon ;)

so grateful to be Mormon! said...

hi tori dear:)
yay, i helped with your blahs today. i feel like i did a good deed :) ha.

glad you got a kick out of jenna's hilarious "make-out meme." i think i shall highlight that post in a post today. it was just too funny and too juicy to not bring readers to it. see, i knew you would love reading that one!

hey, i was in the kitchen earlier and there it was. there was a new roll of paper towels RIGHT next to the empty holder. i was thinking, geez, you couldn't just unscrew the holder and put it on here RIGHT next to this?? is that too much to ask?? :) i so thought of you and your post.

hope the humor eased your owie blahs today. jacob loves you, so all is well, kathleen

Hannemann Family said...

I have been grumpy for like two months now since I have had two extra people living with us....I TOTALLY feel your pain. WHY IS IT SOOOO HARD? To clean up after yourself...or to wipe the water drips of the mirror...or to hang up your towel nicely after showering...it just makes me more ADD about my house. AHHHHH!

Stepherz said...

Amen, Sista. I'm totally relating.

aubrey said...

huh? maraschino cherries on the ceiling fan. are they eating them standing on top of the table? i will support you if you go on strike! you deserve it, you are supermom! i hope your weekend wasn't that bad!