Wednesday, February 13, 2008

Bloggy casserole

This post is just... stuff thrown together... Like a casserole.
Jenni at Arizona Hannemann Family tagged me for a "What's in my purse?" Meme. So, without further adieu... This is my purse. I got it for $4.66 at Payless Shoes. The lipstick and pen marks on the outside are a custom job by Livie.

I had lotion, my wallet, keys, receipts, sunglasses, lotion, 2 pens, a checkbook - which I'm not sure why I carry that around. I don't write checks anywhere...., an Instead Cup, 4000 things of lipstick even though I wear the same 2 all the time, a Lowe's coupon and some spare change. Nothing too exciting today. I actually had 2 packs of gum which Liv stole from me. And inside my purse was a Hershey's candy bar, but I didn't want to get it out because Liv would steal that too!!
I tag Stepherz, Klin, and EWBL.

My friend, Yvonne, gave me an awesome award!! YAY! I'm a cool mom!! Thanks Yvonne!! I pass this prestigous award on to swampbaby and Gretch- 2 really COOL moms~!

And last but not least... You know how I've told y'all my kids go by MY last name and not their legal last name, right? Well, my ex is still very pissy about it and contacted the school (who can't do anything about what name they write on their homework. They are registered with their legal name!) and asked the kids who "makes" them go by my last name. The kids told him "No one." They "just like to." To which he replied, "Well if you're going to go by (last name deleted) maybe I should just let Sei adopt you!!!" When I told Sei this he said, "Where do I sign?" There is no TAD award big enough for this jerk. Really. And for the record, Sei's daughters occasionally use their mom and step-dad's last name and it is a non-issue for us. It doesn't make them less his daughters... Ugh. So, the question is, do I confront the ex about what he said or not??

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27 comments:

Dana said...

Oh, I would definitely confront him about it. That is something that he NEVER should have said to the kids. What a jerk.

JustRandi said...

I'd just let it go. Just because he's a jerk doesn't mean you should acknowledge it every time.

Hey - how do you like that instead cup? I tried it once but could never make it work.

Jean Knee said...

Let it go unless it upsets the kids. Seems like he's always trying to stir stuff up

Hannemann Family said...

Thanks, Tori for dumping out your purse for me! :) What's an Instead Cup?
About the ex...confront the a-hole!

Tori :) said...

Ok ladies- I LOVE the Instead Cup! LOVE! Love! Love!! it!!!! The demo on the website scares women off, but it's really NO BIG DEAL!!
Here's a link to check it out:
Instead Cup.

swampbaby said...

Yes, confront the douche bag and tell him to lay off your kids or you will make it hell on earth to live next to you.

Is that scary enough?

aubrey said...

an instead cup, eh.

i would not confront the ex. he's not worth it.

Amanda said...

Congrats on your cool mom award!!!

What an unbelieveably awful thing to say in front of your kids! He obviously feels threatened by Sei's love for your kids or it would be a non-issue, just like you said it is with Sei's daughters. I don't know if I would confront him or not. Just give your kids extra loves and let them know how much you truly love them.

No Cool Story said...

I saw the cup!!!
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! I loved that :)

No Cool Story said...

Amanda said excatly what I was going to say.

He should have really talked to you about it instead of the kids because obviously that just upsets them (jerk), but that's all we can expect from him, can't we?

Gretch said...

Thanks for the award!!!

As far as your EX. He needs some serious psychotherapy!!!

Tori, Im gunna, use your comments space to invite everyone over to my blog for a little game..
I have a guess-timation Jar!!!
thanks
G

elasticwaistbandlady said...

I love men who are so territorial and control-freakish about their kids when they're the ones that voluntarily broke up their family and ensured last name chaos by screwing around and not putting the kids as first priority.

Disgusting A-hole.

It makes sense for the kids to use your last name. It makes things easier than explaning a bunch of different surnames and the whole story behind it. At this point your kids deserve to do whatever they feel like in this situation to make the process of coming from a broken family easier. I'd be tempted to yell that very thing at your ex-Ahole, too.

elasticwaistbandlady said...

I don't carry a purse. I carry a giant diaper bag with dancing poodles on it. :)

Yvonne said...

I'm such a looser I very rarely carry a purse in the winter--everything goes in my coat pockets!!!

I'd be so irritated with the ex. I agree with Amanda. He's obviously very threatened. What's in a name, like you said--it doesn't make them less your children When my daughter gets married and changes her name, she'll still be my daughter!!! I'd wait and see and take the lead from the kids--see how they handle it all.

tara said...

This has been going on for longer than since you moved back to Texas.(chin guards? ring a bell?the dufus.) I think the less you let him see he's upsetting you, the better. I wouldn't confront him, unless your kids want you to address it with him. I'd just tell them to say "we go by that last name b/c we want to"! Especially since you and sei have kids together I completely understand why they want to go by G*. He's going to have to get over it!! the jerk.

s--max said...

Uggghhhh! I'm opening the can....just tell me when to release! =}

wendy said...

I like your cute purse! Green!

poor poor ex h. i feel so sorry for him...

(not)

utmommy said...

You are definitly a cool mom!

...and what a jerk. I'm so sorry you are having to go through all that.

Klin said...

3 things:
1- Boy am I glad I cleaned out my purse yesterday morning. It had like 35 receipts hiding everything. Whew.

2- You are waaaay cool mom. That's why teh ex is sooooo jealous. He can just never live up to you.

3- I would very lightly tell the ex that it breaks the children's hearts when he makes threats he doesn't follow through on. I should probably tell you that the previous sentence is a bit passive-aggressive, but darn funny. Unless he doesn't get it. Then it's no fun.

Millie said...

Do what I do when confronted - say "Shut the hell up, Schneebly."

You might sweetly point out that maybe he should have thought about whose last name his kids would go by, when he was boinking his NOT WIFE.

Tori :) said...

Thanks ladies for your support!! :)

Chel said...

The ex feels threatened. He knows he hasn't been the dad that Sei has.
You ever so kindly say, like it's not big deal, the next time you talk to him, "I'm starting the adoption papers, that meant a lot to the kids that you said to them Sei could adopt them. They are really excited about it."

swampbaby said...

Sorry for my earlier outburst. And thanks for the "Cool Mom" award. :-)

Hannemann Family said...

Okay, that Instead Cup is way too funny...I had no idea that it was for "feminine needs"...

Help I need a user name! said...

If I were you, I'd let it go (unless you want to go with the comment that you're so grateful to him for letting Sei adopt the kids...that's priceless!). He doesn't need any attention and he doesn't need to get away with thinking that he can rile you up. You're cool. Stay cool.

Nancy Face said...

Excellent casserole!

The purse thing was so fun...WAY more fun than the contents of my purse! I never write checks at stores...just at home for bills...but I carry my checkbook around in the purse, too. What's up with that?

You are DEFINITELY a cool mom...I'm pretty sure you received that same award from My Life As Annie a while back! :D

Wow...the ex never ceases to prove his utter jerky-ness!

Stepherz said...

Tori! This is craziness. My ex did the exact same thing when Austin started going by my new married name. Austin had my maiden name, not his father's name, so why wouldn't he change his last name too? Why would he want to be the only one going by my maiden name? So his dad basically threw himself on the ground and kicked and screamed about it, even though Austin never had his last name anyways. Dork!

I'm going to try to do this meme ASAP. Thanks for the tag! :-)