Thursday, March 27, 2008

Do I bore you??

First things first: On Tuesday I posted about the weighted balls with handles I worked out with. I called them Cattle Bells. I knew they were something like that but couldn't remember for sure. They are actually called Kettle Bells, not cattle. Here's a picture: Oh- and I ran about 3 miles yesterday. I meant to only do 2 but ended up running back and forth between parks looking for my kids and parents. :) YAY!

Now on to my real post. Do you ever just feel... BORING? Sometimes I feel like everyone in my family has a much more exciting life than me. I know you're wondering, "Why Tori? By your posts about cattle bells you must lead an exciting life??" Well, in reality it is so NOT exciting. I was telling Sei that my legs were sore from doing squats. Well, HIS legs were sore too because he'd been out at the shooting range all day getting to shoot a cool gun. I gave birth, he got ta$ed. I wrote a Tad Award about a rude lady at Walmart, he had a SWAT call. See? Boring. This has just been bothering me not because I'm jealous (ok, maybe I am) or anything, but sometimes I hear myself talking and even I am thinking, "Did you really just make Sei watch that scene from Yo Gabba Gabba?" No wonder he prefers Sports Center, sheesh.
I was watching this show "The Secret Life of a Soccer Mom." This mom had this secret dream to be a cop like her husband. Ok- that is soooo not me. I think being a detective would be awesome, but I don't want to do all the "cop stuff" like pull speeders over. I'm too big of a chicken. I saw this video where this tiny female officer was trying to cuff this big guy and he was just walking off, dragging her. That'd be me. Plus, I'm all about the men handling stuff like that. "Save me!!" And before all the psycho-feminists start leaving me mean comments, I'm sure females make awesome cops. Just not me. Anyway, back to the show.... This soccer mom got to go to the police academy for a week and then she was offered a scholarship to attend the academy. Her husband was like "No way." He was totally against it because he didn't want her to "see the things he sees." She turned it down also even though she wanted to do it. She turned it down to continue staying home with her kids. That show depressed me. Not because I have some secret desire to be a cop, but because I don't really have a secret desire... at all. There isn't some awesome career I've dreamed about all my life or anything. Is that weird?? If I had a week to do something it sure the heck wouldn't be the police academy. I'd learn to surf or wakeboard or snowboard... Maybe that's my dream. I would be a professional beach bum. That'd be cool.
Anyway... this post is kinda all over the place (what else is new, eh?) Just sometimes I get this twinge of, I don't know if it's envy or what. Just sometimes I wish I had more to add to the conversation than "Yeah, well today I found a ton of dry boogers on the side of Liv's crib..."

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18 comments:

Whitney said...

:) I don't think you're boring at all! I love reading your posts, you always have something interesting and/or funny!!! Or cute stories of you and your family...etc. :)
I couldn't ever be a cop either. I'd be like "License and Registration?" and in any case that they might just say "No", all my reaction would be is "Ok...." because I would be too afraid to push it! ha ha

K said...

I was thinking of this the other day. I just finished reading The Mermaid Chair by Sue Monk Kidd, and it's about a woman who comes to the realization that she's spent her life doing exactly what she thought she wanted, but looking back it wasn't enough. She feels like she's never done anything that really made her feel alive. I'm butchering the synopsis, and you should all read it, because it's a really good book. Your post reminded me of it and the thought trains I've had the last few days. I don't have anything I am so looking forward to, you know? I mean, I'm excited for my kids to get older, go on missions and to college and get married, I want to be a grandma, but I don't have anything that I want to do just for me. I wish I did.

PJ said...

I haven't even watched that show, the concept bugs me. I do like a lot of other shows on that channel.

I love my life, and I'm sure it's "boring" to others. I'll neva apologize for it.

You rock Tori!

No Cool Story said...

Any post with cattle bells is a winner to me.

No Cool Story said...

I find all your posts mighty interesting. I don’t even have to pretend I’m interested…I AM.

I'm with PJ, the concept of that show bugs me. Not because I think women should have no aspirations, dreams or want to excel on something that's not changing diapers.
But if you are, say a mom of four, and you CHOSE to stay home and make sure those 4 kids have their mom there to kiss them and clean their boogers instead of a day care person who takes care of 10 kids at the same time...well then, there you have it.

Or something like that.

swampbaby said...

I saw one episode of that show and it bothered me. Not because I think the concept is off, because I know there are many, many moms out there who have sacrificed a dream in some form or another in order to raise their family. But what bothers me is that it makes the people participating (and watching it) feel disquieted with their lives and makes it seem like it is a one or the other option only. Of course if someone gets to go live their "dream" for a week, then it probably going to seem way better. I don't know.

The show I saw the mom did take the job. She had 3 little girls and she decided to go to work fulltime instead. I definitely think you need to have a purpose and a passion, but that doesn't mean that because you chose to be a mother you can't do that. It doesn't say anywhere that you have to become some slug that just wipes butts and loses large percentages of your vocabulary just because you stay home with your kids. Sorry this is so long. I could keep going, but I won't.

S said...

Bore me! NEVER! I love your blog. You are my hero! I ditto swampbaby she is so right. I would rather deal with dry boogers than tasers ANYDAY.

Yvonne said...

I agree with what has been said--I've never had to pretend to be interested. I think you are an amazing woman and mom.

As far as a career, I'm happy with what I do. I will admit it--I watched the first episode of Lipstick Jungle with those women with high power jobs and thought, "Gosh, am I glad I am a stay at home mom." Whenever I used to go with Allan to business meetings and visit with women who have high-power jobs, I used to wonder what that would be like. I don't any more.

Seriously, I LOVE BEING AN AT HOME MOM. I feel each of us has to do what makes us happy--being at home makes me happy. I was there with my 3 younger kids for field trips, all their games, be in the class when needed, etc., and I loved it all. I realize there are women who have to work (I had to work with my first).

I'm comfortable that my legacy will be my children and their children. My dream--"no empty chairs"

Stacey said...

I don't find your blog boring either. :)

For me I'm already living the dream! :)

Robin said...

I totally know how you feel. When did my biggest desire become to just get to a movie or clothing store by myself? How lame is that dream? I think the sacrifices of being a stay at home mom are far reaching, and extend to us sometimes feeling down about the life we're leading, it's hard to remember how awesome we are because we're giving our kids the wonderful lives they have! Go Tori, you're truly awesome!

~j. said...

I remember, years ago in our 6-plex, talking with Kerri about, "Hey, look -- we're living what we pretended as kids." Seriously. Playing house. Boring? Sometimes. Funny? Usually. It's a million things. But I'll tell you this much: I'd rather watch Gabba than SportsCenter ANY DAY.

ps -- for more on the topic of that show you mentioned, please read my friend Kacy's post, which happens to be one of the best working/stay-at-home mom posts I've ever, EVER read.

Tori :) said...

j.- That was a great post! Thanx.

Jean Knee said...

I never think your shenanigans are boring.

I think women who stay home with their kids are doing a noble thing because, lets face it no one is ever gonna give you a raise or even a thanks for making sure there is clean laundry and a full fridge.

I recently read a study where all that jabber about quality time is nonsense. Children thrive doing all the regular and mundane things in family life.

i also think moms have fun and are kewl.
and that post was great.

Klin said...

You never bore me. Seriously. I come to your blog to get some humor. It then reminds me of the humor that I have in my own life, but just can't see.

Those kettle balls are kinda cool looking.

latree said...

don't know why you think you're boring. your posts show ow interesting your life is...

latree said...

and in case you still feel bored, I tagged you. check out!

Nancy Face said...

You're not boring AT ALL!

I would so never want to be a cop! SAVE ME! (Go away, psycho-feminists!)

I love being a boring stay at home mom...and the older the kids get, the more fun it becomes! :D

Lauren said...

Tori, you are NOT boring. You are one of coolest moms I know online haha!