Thursday, April 24, 2008

Deep thoughts by Tori:)

I was watching "American Justice" early this morning. It was about Cary Stayner- the Yosemite serial killer. He was the brother of Steven Stayner- the little boy who was kidnapped when he was 7 and molested for 7 years before he helped another kidnapped boy escape and escaped himself. Steven died when he was like 24 when he was hit by a car on his motorcycle. It's all a very sad and depressing story.
Anyway... it got me thinking. (Uh oh.) God gave each of us free agency- the ability and right to choose. He doesn't choose for us. Usually when I think of free agency I think of it on a personal level- I try to choose the right and make good choices. But I rarely think about how all my choices can and will affect others.
Kenneth Parnell is the loser who chose to kidnap a 7 year old boy. His choice changed the lives of sooooo many people. Would Cary have become a total psycho and killed all those 4 women in Yosemite if his whole childhood had not been centered around finding his missing brother and then seeing the man who did this to his brother and family only serve 3 1/2 years in prison? Who knows. I say no, but that's just me. Kenneth Parnell knew what he was doing. He knew what he was choosing. Steven was 7 years old and he totally changed his life in a horrible way. :(
Kinda like an adulterer. When you cheat you are solely thinking of yourself. There is no way you can even begin to imagine or comprehend how the spouse you cheat on will feel and be affected. You don't know how it will affect your children. You don't know how that one decision will affect your entire life and the life of those around you as you know it. But see, the cheater gets to make that choice. The family he cheats on doesn't get a choice. They are just hit with it and left picking up the pieces- for years to come. It's not fair. Not fair at all.
Or a person choosing to drive drunk. They made that choice to drink too many beers and then get behind the wheel. That single mom of 4 driving home from her late nite job didn't make the choice for the drunk driver. But she was killed anyway.
I know this post is not uplifting in the least. I guess I was just hit all the sudden with how every choice I make, whether bad or good, has the capacity to affect sooooo many more people than I'm sure I think of when I make the choice. I want to do better and make sure I think about who all will/can be affected if I choose poorly. And on that note:


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11 comments:

Suzanne said...

You're right Tori, other people's choices can effect others in ways that are difficult to measure and quantify. Way to go in being aware of that and letting it guide your life!

Ew...I can't wait that clip from Indiana Jones because it creeps me out. So I didn't! :)

Suzanne said...

And I was first today for once! :)

Suzanne said...

P.S. I meant I couldn't watch that clip of Indie. O.k. enough posts for me...

Stacey said...

Very good post Tori. I remember watching the tv movie about Steven and it was so sad. :(

I made it through the video. i'm tough that way. ;)

Chel said...

I loved the video :) I LOVE INDIANA JONES. In fact, so much so... that I almost named Jaxon, Indy.

Yvonne said...

It's all about choices. And because we each make choices as a result of our circumstances, I'm so grateful for mercy. Maybe that doesn't make sense, but I think in some instances many people can be a victim of their circumstances--no, I'm not making excuses for the drunk driver who goes out and drives drunk, but what about what happens to the family that lost a mom to the drunk driver.

Sorry, didn't mean to make such a long comment.

I love Indiana Jones, too. Can't wait for the new one.

No Cool Story said...

I read this last night and it made me :(

No Cool Story said...

"He chose....poorly."

Made me :)

Klin said...

I have wondered about the brother, too. Only thing is, others have similar things or worse things happen to them and they don't choose to do what Cary did. I think that we don't know how much personality plays into the way things affect us. Because of course the other side of the argument is that people who have a pretty good life also make some pretty bad choices.

You make mostly good choices, from my point of view. I would find it hard to to believe that anything you have done has had teh ripple effect of the types you mentioned above.

Klin said...

I forgot to tell you that the Stayner story is one that tears at my heart. I was so sad when they said he died in an accident. I was disappointed in Cary's choices. I feel so bad for their mom. I can't even begin to imagine her pain. Not being able to protect her son and then not being able to stop her son from hurting others. He certainly knew how it felt and yet. . .

Sorry for taking up so much space with my deep thoughts.

Nancy Face said...

A very excellent post, addressing a very serious subject.

I love how you ended it with the Indiana Jones clip!