Sunday, May 31, 2009

Birth order-- pointless post

There are 5 kids in my family. I always consider myself the middle child even though I am technically the 2nd child. "Why?" you ask. Well, because my brother, the 4th kid, wasn't born until I was 10. That's a long time to spend in the middle of 2 other girls. And then the 5th child wasn't born until I was almost 18. So, yeah... I was the "middle child" long enough to get warped. This what I found off a birth order website regarding the middle child of 3:

* Has neither rights of oldest nor privileges of youngest.
* Feels life is unfair.
* Feels unloved, left out, "squeezed."
* Feels doesn't have place in family.
* Becomes discouraged and "problem child" or elevates self by pushing down other siblings.
* Is adaptable.
* Learns to deal with both oldest and youngest sibling.

And this is what is says for the 2nd child:

* Never has parents' undivided attention.
* Always has sibling ahead who's more advanced.
* Acts as if in race, trying to catch up or overtake first child. If first child is "good," second may become "bad." Develops abilities first child doesn't exhibit. If first child successful, may feel uncertain of self and abilities.
* May be rebel.
* Often doesn't like position.
* Feels "squeezed" if third child is born.
* May push down other siblings

Hmm.... yep. Sounds pretty right on to me. I'm not sure *why* it works out that way, but it does. Maybe it's because back when I was born there weren't cool things like camcorders so unlike with my little sister- my first 3 years aren't all on tape!! And I think it may have been different if my older sister was a boy, etc... I think that makes a difference. You should go check out that site and see if it matches up with your birth order.

I don't think anyone did anything to make me feel "squeezed" or turn me into a "rebel." I was born with a rebellious streak, I think, but I don't think that's handed out just because I was the 2nd child. And I think that streak can be a blessing as much as it has been a curse. It's a certain strength I have when I reign it in to do good. lol

I've written warped middle child stories in the past. Such as my "Marcia, Marcia, Marcia" post and my "Tattle Tail" story. There's plenty more where that came from if you keep reading my blog... (say that like Napoleon.) I had another story planned and I just totally forgot it. I must be healing. haha

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Heffalump said...

I feel like I was a bit of everything in the birth order. Baby until I was nine and then suddenly a middle child, but I spent several years as the oldest at home as well.

Stacey said...

Movie Quote - The Brady Bunch Movie

I'm the baby by 15 years and I was spoiled. I also had many "moms and dads" when I started dating since all of my sibs were married.

Suzanne said...

I am the 2nd child too. I always felt like I was trying to surpass my older sister. She was perfect at everything and I always felt like I had something to prove. I also tried to be as different as her as I could. I think that's why I'm messy... Sad, but true. :)

Karina said...

That's how I feel. I'm the 2nd but then I was the middle child for a long time until my other siblings were born, so I still have that
2nd child middle child syndrome and the fact that my parents were expecting a boy when I was born. It's a miracle that I'm as "normal" as I am.

Yvonne said...

I'm the 4th of 6th--almost middle child. I'm just a bit strange ; )

Nancy Face said...

I'm 3rd out of 4, and Lauren is 2nd out of 3, which makes both of us pretty much middle children. But both of us were the only girl in a family of boys, and that made all the difference...we are both very much like 1st children! :P

My brother just older than me...the 2nd child...was VERY rebellious! One time he brought home a handgun and fired it at the bathroom medicine cabinet just to see how cool he looked in the mirror while shooting a gun! He also got drunk and walked through a sliding glass door and shattered it, and also got arrested a few times! But he straightened up during his junior year of high school and joined the Honor Choir and the school gymnastics team! Amazing.