Thursday, September 22, 2011

Tad Award: Rude Facebook Commenters


Wow. I haven't given a Tad Award in a long time! For those wondering, a Tad Award is an award I invented based on Tad, the fish from Finding Nemo who says, "I'm obnoxious!!" I award people this award when they are rude, tacky, OBNOXIOUS, etc...
This time I am awarding rude Facebook commenters. People on Facebook tend to get 1) braver because they aren't face to face 2) out of touch with reality. Just because we had Algebra 2 together our junior year in high school does not mean you "know" me or that we are close enough for "jokes" that are actually really rude.


Case in point:
This past weekend was my bff's birthday party. It was at a club- not a kind of place I frequent, but I went to be with her. There was cigarette smoke which tends to irritate my skin. Add that to my adult-onset acne and I probably looked a little ragged. Well, a not so flattering pic was taken of me where you can see my 3 zits and red splotches from me probably scratching my face because of the smoke. It was posted on Facebook. I took a screen shot so you can see the comment that was left by a guy I haven't seen since high school- I graduated in 94...



"Tori what the heck happen to you girl ? You had better skin then that pic girl! Lol"...

Nice, huh? "LOL"??? Really? Yeah, that's hilarious. Why would someone write that? He hasn't seen me in 20 years. Those marks on my face could be from a car accident where a drunk driver killed my entire family and shards of glass were embedded in my face. He doesn't know. Obviously that's not why I have marks on my face. I have zits. I had perfect skin until I was 26. Then my skin went berzerk. It's something that makes me very uncomfortable. I struggle with it and it's a huge insecurity of mine. It's embarrassing. And my skin isn't even as bad as others, but it's MINE- on MY face. Why the hell would someone think that would be an appropriate or funny comment? I will admit it- it hurt my feelings a lot and I cannot confirm or deny that I cried some. It's so silly because I honestly could not care less what that guy thinks. I'm not even friends with him on Facebook, much less in real life! But it hurts to know that others notice something I really hate about myself, and then that some people would take that thing and blast it out in Facebook for others to read. And did anyone else call HIM out for being rude? Of course not-- You know, don't want to offend anyone. Psh.

So, here's a Tad Award for that guy and for all people who think posting rude comments on Facebook (or anywhere else for that matter) is ok. Or for thinking that if you add an "LOL" after it, that it makes it ok. It doesn't. Words hurt whether we want them to or not. I'm almost embarrassed that this stupid comment had any affect on me at all, but it did. Kinda like those mean kids that said I was ugly or that kid at the 8th grade basketball tournament back in 1989... Words DO hurt and I am just thankful that this guy said it to me and not a teenage girl with acne who doesn't have the maturity or self-esteem not let others words define her. BE NICE.